As we embark upon Breast Cancer and Domestic Violence awareness month, it is important to understand friendships and sisterhood. As a survivor of very difficult times, I don’t take for granted having someone that I can honestly and truthfully confide in; a person that I know will have my back no matter what, and will support me through it all. I did not have all of the support of a friend during my challenging times, and it was very challenging to get from one day to the next. I vowed that when I was able, I would be a friend to the friendless or help those that needed the support of a friend to get through challenging times.
Friends help you dream big, they understand your vision, and they strive to help you bring that vision to life. They support you when you need it most, and bring smiles to your face. Friends don’t take you or your time for granted, but they respect that your time is just as precious as their own. They are just like husbands because they are there in sickness and health, for richer or poorer and usually until death parts you.
Words cannot express the love that is felt knowing that you have a friend who will stick with you through your difficult times in life. A real friend will be there no matter where you are, who you’re with or what you are doing. They can go for months without talking to you, but a phone call will change that and it would be just like you spoke yesterday.
- Phone Call– If you know of someone that is experiencing challenging times; call her. A positive phone conversation will usually help her feel better.
- A Card and a Visit– If you have the time, visit her and take a card. You can pick up a card for $1 or 2 for $1 from the dollar store. It is the thought that counts and she will appreciate it sincerely.
- Gift Bag/Basket– For under $20, you can put together a nice gift bag or basket with items from the dollar store, and it would be a nice way to brighten someone’s day.
- E-Greeting– Sending an e-greeting card is a great way to brighten a friend’s day.
- Have A Girls Night In– Inviting your friend over for a girls night in would be a great way to pick a funny movie, fix a pizza and have some great laughter.
- Write a Note– Sending a hand written note on some cute writing paper would be a great way to brighter their day when the mail is opened.
- Cook Dinner– Ask your friend if you can stop by and cook dinner. Sometimes the body and mind are tired when you are going through challenges. A great break would be to have someone else cook dinner.
- House Cleaning– Offer to clean the house for your friend. Just getting a break from everyday things is a nice way to help your friend feel better.
- Stroll– Sometimes taking a walk with a friend when no words are spoken, speaks loud and clear. Sometimes the pain is too great to talk about, but knowing that you can walk/sit with your friend and just be quiet is support enough.
- Ask– Just ask your friend what you can do to serve them during this time. Knowing someone wants to help and support them during challenging times is a blessing.
Remember that not all people have the support of friends in challenging times. Be willing to be a friend to someone in need, and help bring light into their seemingly dark places. Support awareness of domestic abuse, sexual abuse and breast cancer.
National Breast Cancer Awareness: http://nbcam.org/
Domestic Violence Education: http://www.vawnet.org/